I love what they are NOT

In the past, yes, long ago when we ask our spouse or even no need to ask then he would say "I love what it is." But in reality live always changing. Perhaps you yourself have felt, then, what happens when our spouse then becomes "can not love us as it is?"

It always feels wonderful love. Complete with all the spice romance, both feels good and bitter. The question is how do we face the changes that occur on our spouses? What then apply if your spouse is really not in accordance with our expectations, or even that we become people who could not be taken for granted?

You, who are currently being asked "What's wrong with me?" Or "Where you used to love me what it is?" May feel that our partner is not what we expect him. Although if we pull back the journey of life, we should also be able to mutually understand the nature of our partners. Then, what should we do? Knuckle under the circumstances? Maintaining something that feels very hard to do? Or to pretend that we are still able to accept the situation with the fair?

My friends, sometimes we just see something that looks from our reasoning. Indeed many things we can possibly achieve, juah of something that we could catch the eye. There is always the meaning of each event. The question is, how far you want to get a different meaning? Meaning that far from our expectations? Weird? No, this is not something unusual. It's when we were able to map what we expect and what we do not expect a balanced manner so happy is a choice.

Loving is not coercion, it is often said, but sometimes we even be forced to when things went not in line with expectations. What should kill feelings? What's wrong? No, do not let a question like that spend our energy to be happy. When our spouse could no longer accept a situation we do not like expectations, then the talk is best compared to a depressed undemonstrative. Often we become afraid to talk, perhaps because we fear losing, but at least it will change a thing. Are you going to let it continue to cling feeling depressed?

Speak up and say what we and our partners want. If that love is still so great, and certainly we will partner together to find solutions. Not left or abandoned. However, if the reality is we own or partner felt it was unable to continue the relationship, then determine the best for the common good. Life is not that difficult if we are able to digest its meaning. And live very short to pass up with tears.

Once again, everyone is born to be happy. There's always the sun to those who believe in hope.

Sincerely,

HARIES Budjana